As we walk through this life, we meet many people along the way. Some become dear connected souls who live in our heart regardless of where we travel (you know who you are my lovies), and others are meant to cross paths to teach and learn from each other in meaningful, profound and deep-seed-planting sort of ways.
This concept of each of us being a mirror for the other is easy enough to grasp and hold on to when things are going well and you can feel the love flowing to all around you. But how about those moments of anger, jealousy, sadness, frustration and yes, even hate.
Those dark heavy feelings are ones that we all experience at various levels and times throughout life. When you think of that person or those people who really charge you up, can you try to imagine for a moment that the person or people are here in your life and on your path in order to hold up a mirror…to teach you something amazing, or have you teach them?
This isn’t a simple concept to embrace and one that I watch myself go in and out of depending on the situation.
But when I take a pause, and get really honest about a relationship that challenges my daily sense of inner peace, my patience and my spiritual growth, I begin to see things about myself that I may not have been able to see on my own.
Recently, I learned about and tried a powerful meditation from one of my spiritual teachers, Carolyn Myss, that has rocked my world and opened up a new way of looking at those challenging relationships. I’ll walk you through the steps in the intuition challenge below. But the gist of the meditation is that it takes you into an imaginary (yet highly energetic) interaction with this ‘challenging’ relationship and allows you to see both yourself and the other person in a new, compassionate and hopefully a healing way.
This is POWERFUL shit y’all. So if you are feeling courageous, think of the person that causes your heart to tighten, your jaw to clench and go for it.
The Intuition Challenge (have your journal nearby for this one)
Step ONE: find a quiet place where you can be uninterrupted for at least 5 minutes.
Step TWO: close your eyes and think of that person that I mentioned earlier. You know, the one that pushes your buttons. (if there’s more than one, just start with the first one that comes to mind. You can do this as many times as you need.)
Step THREE: Imagine that you are sitting across from this person. You are both sitting in chairs facing each other.
Step FOUR: Now look the person directly into their eyes and ask, “What are you here to teach me?”
Now listen. Try not to judge the answer as right or wrong. The answer may surprise you, or it may validate what you have thought all along.
Step FIVE: Now ask, “What am I here to teach you?”
Step FIVE: Now, let the chairs fade away. Imagine that today is that day you are dying. You are leaving this Earth plane and this person sitting across from you is the very last person to hold you as you pass from life to death. Feel this deeply. Imagine this person holding you.
No be still and FEEL.
Has anything shifted? Any realizations? What were the feelings that came up?
I invite you to grab your journal and jot down your initial raw thoughts and feelings. The next time you meet with or cross paths with this person, begin to notice if you are charged less. Begin to notice if just thinking of this relationship has shifted at all. I invite you to try this more than once and begin to notice if just thinking about this person creates less of a charge then it did before. This is a powerful practice that can shift your lens immediately, or unravel the charged emotions over time. Only you will know what is happening for you, and it will be different for each of us.
I’d love to hear about your experience with the Intuition Challenge. Leave a comment below with any shifts, realizations or insights that you walked away with after this meditation.
Love, light & gratitude,
P.S. – The first time I did this, I was sitting quietly by myself in a car….so don’t let lack of the PERFECT location stop you.