Q – What does Divine Self-Care mean to you?
Divine Self-Care means to value yourself to take yourself out on a date and really be present with your Authentic Self. It doesn’t mean going out alone and socializing or flirting with others. It’s all about you. Maybe going to a spa for a massage, a quiet room, a facial to relax and pamper yourself, then a walk on the beach. Or possibly going to a silent retreat for a weekend or even a whole week to contemplate your life and legacy. Ultimately, it means getting in the zen zone so you can commune with nature so you can hear your soul speak and it’s not really about how you do it, but that you do it.
Q – Was there a time when you did not take care of YOU and how did it affect your life & business?
Yes, there have been several times that I didn’t “have time” to care for myself. I got sick. I made irrational business decisions and lost money and gained weight. We sometimes think we can’t take care of ourselves when we’re care taking for others. I know I felt guilty to take of myself when my mother was passing and again when a close friend that I was taking care of was was passing. I believe I felt guilty for being healthy and that I had the opportunity to eat well and exercise, so I didn’t care for myself in honor of my loved ones, which was a silly choice.
Q – What are your top 3 Divine Self-Care tips that women can incorporate into their lives right now?
- Wake up in the morning and write down five things you’re grateful for.
- Look at yourself in the mirror every morning and night and say, “I love you, (your name).” When you do this, really look into your soul. Take the time to see the real you.
- Give back. You can do this in many ways. For your kids: Make your routine with your kids an event instead of a to-do on your list. For you: Sit in nature and just listen. For strangers: Simply smile and say hello to others.
Every morning I look at my list of things to do for the next day, then I look at my vision plan of who I am and what I want my legacy to be. It is a reminder of how I want my day to turn out. I don’t want to just wake up, brush my teeth, take a shower, make breakfast, eat, feed the kids, the dog, get kids off to school, etc. I want to have fun with the mundane because the mundane is life, not the extraordinary days. After looking at my to-do list and vision plan, I wake up and exercise, wake up my toddler, and we dance to William Pharrell’s “Happy” song, twice, as we get her up and ready for school. We laugh and dance together. Once she’s at school, I take 15 minutes to meditate and connect to my Authentic Soul and ask for help in making decisions for my highest good.
Q – What’s something (fun, silly, surprising) that we can learn about you?
My daughter and I sing zippity do da as we walk to school each morning while doing the “off to see the wizard” dance. We never tire of it and laugh hysterically as we re-create the lyrics and style. Sometimes we sing it as a hip-hop song, other times with a Southern/British/French accent, other times we take turns re-writing the lyrics one sentence at time.
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Your Turn – Lisa and I want to know: Do you have any morning Self-Care rituals to prepare you for the day ahead?
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